Realize that there is a Mr. Right for you

The first step to finding Mr. Right, is to understand that he does exist. Of course, chances are, your story probably won’t end up like a fairy tale where a guy on horseback comes and takes you away to his castle. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t find a guy that will make you happy, and that you won’t have a happy life. Life is never perfect, and either is marriage. You won’t find a guy that is perfect, just like you will never be perfect. We are all human, which means that we all have faults, and make mistakes. But you can find someone that will truly enrich your life, treat you like a princess and help make you feel complete.
The reason I know that there still are guys out there that know how to treat women, is because I had the pleasure of watching the way my dad has treated my mom as I’ve grown up. My dad was 18 and my mom was 20 when they got married and had me. And in the twenty something years that I can remember, I have NEVER ONCE heard my dad raise his voice at my mom. I can remember them disagreeing about some things, but they always solved it that day, and my dad never ever raised his voice at her. He isn’t perfect, but he has always been there for my mom, has loved her unconditionally, and would do anything for her. He does large things, and small things for her. He is romantic and does things for no reason. He has been a role model for me on how to treat women, and he is my hero. He is the reason I know that true love still exists.
Now I know that not every guy is like this. In fact, the majority of guys aren’t like this. But the fact of the matter is, is that there are still guys out there, and we will look at how to make sure you end up with a guy like this.


Change yourself

One of the things that I have learned in life, is that you can’t change someone. The only way someone will change, is because they decide to. You can give the best reasons, the best proof, the biggest motivation to someone to help them change, but the decision to change is up to that person. You can even hold a gun to a person’s head to have them do something, but they will only do it just to not get shot.
Instead of focusing our energy on changing other people, we need to focus our energy and time to work on ourselves. While you’re single, you have the best opportunity to find out who you really are. You also have the perfect time to work on things that you need to work on or change about yourself. One of the biggest ways to attract the man of your dreams, is to be the type of woman that attracts who you are looking for. How do you do that? Look at what you’re looking for in a guy, and make sure you’re that type of person. If you’re looking for an honest guy, then you need to be honest yourself.
When you are talking about changing yourself, the first thing that people usually think about is physical change. We all have things that we like and don’t like about our body. There are things that we wish could change, and other things that we want to keep. The thing to remember about our physical looks, is that there isn’t a single person in the world that is perfectly happy with their body. Even skinny supermodels have things about their body that they want to change.
The key in physical appearance is to realize what you can change, and what you can’t change. There are going to be some things about your body that you can’t change (except through very expensive plastic surgery). And with things like this, you need to accept this part of you, and have self esteem and confidence. A guy doesn’t want a girl that doesn’t have self esteem. If you are a girl with low self esteem, start with the things that you like about your body, and focus on those. Everyone has at least something about their body that they like. And be specific. From there, go to the things that you can change, and work on those. And if there is something about your body that you can’t change, then just accept it and don’t focus on it. Chances are, it’s not as bad as you think it is, and people don’t focus on it like you think they do. Download this physical appearance form , or grab a blank paper, and write down a list of body parts or characteristics that you like, that you don’t like and can change, and things that you don’t like and have to accept.
There are many things you can change about your physical appearance. Some of these things include use whitening strips to whiten your teeth and wash your face and use cleansers to have a nice face. For your body, you can drink lots of water, eat right, and exercise to lose weight, as well as go to the gym to tone your body. Don’t forget proper grooming of body hair.
Aside from the body, there are other things you can change about yourself, such as your personality. Many people don’t realize that your personality isn’t fixed. You can change your personality. Your personality is the way you feel or perceive things in certain situations, or how you act. All of these characteristics are formed from a habit of being a certain way. If you are not a really happy person, then change that. Force yourself to smile, and to be happy. Focus on good things, and things that make you happy and make the decision to start acting positively instead of negatively.
Another thing that you can change is your character. Character should be very important in what you look for in a guy. Do you want an honest guy? Do you want a guy of integrity? A guy that can be trusted? A guy that is trusting? Character is very important, because it’s who you are at the core. It affects how you act in different situations. If someone will lie about small things, then they will lie about big things. If someone steals small things, then they will steal big things. Integrity is who you are, when no one is looking. Anyone can put on a mask, and act a certain way for a little bit of time. But who you are when no one is around is who you really are. How honest are you? Do you tell little lies? Do you talk about other people behind other people’s back? Some other character qualities are tolerance, patience, humility, kindness, loyalty. Where are you at on these qualities. Are there any that you need to work on? Remember, you attract the type of person that you are.
It is extremely important to work on who you are and who you want to be when you’re single. Because when you are in a relationship, you don’t always see these characteristics because you’re with someone, and don’t really think about what you can work on. But when you’re single, and trying to figure out how you can be better to attract someone better, you can search yourself better and evaluate where you are on different characteristics. The best way to attract Mr. Right, is to be Miss Right. What are you looking for in a guy, and be the reflection of that.


Know what you want

Being single gets very monotonous and boring after a while. Believe me, I know. You begin to get lonely, and question if you really do deserve a good guy, and if you will ever find one. You begin to have doubts about your looks, and qualities, and wonder if you’re being too picky. But do not fear. Use the time to work on yourself, and make yourself ready to be in a relationship. If your life is unorganized and out of whack, then how much more unorganized and crazy is it going to be if you are in a relationship. You need to work on being who you need to be and getting your life in order.
Well how do you know whether you have the qualities that a good guy is looking for? What exactly does a good guy look for in a girl. Well here is a list of qualities that a good guy wants in a girl. It might be shallow to say, but guys do go for looks more then girls do. This applies across the board, from jerks to nice guys. Men are very visual, and therefore looks do matter to a guy. But before you start freaking out, we’re not talking about supermodel looks. Guys love girls that take care of themselves, from taking care of their bodies, to doing your hair. So you’re not a supermodel-Not many girls are. But a good guy would rather have “the girl next door” looks that is confident in herself, then have a super hot girl who is stuck up. Guys don’t like girls who are stuck up, and think that they’re better then other people. However, we do want a girl who is confident in her looks, in who she is, and doesn’t try to be someone she’s not.
Guys want a girl that is completely honest, and not afraid to shoot straight with us. We would rather have a girl tell us something that we don’t like but is the truth, then a girl who lies to us and tells us what they think we want to hear. Guys love to be appreciated. The easiest way to break a guy’s heart, is to be unappreciative of something he does or gets for you. Guys like to be romantic and do things for girls, especially when the girls appreciate it, and tell their friends about it. This makes the guy feel like “the man.”
Guys want girls that like to have fun, that aren’t superficial, and isn’t afraid to get their hands dirty. Now I’m not talking about a tom boy. We still like our girls to be girly, but not too girly that if it starts raining, you’re worried about your hair getting wet. (P.S. - Girls look sexy with wet hair.) Good guys like girls that aren’t slutty, that don’t dress like they’re a Las Vegas showgirl. Sure, if you show a lot of cleavage, you do get many guy’s attention; but it isn’t what a good guy wants, and especially what he wants in a girlfriend. How you dress, attracts a certain type of guy. If you dress in short skirts, and cleavage shirts, then you will attract guys who care only about that. But if you dress nice then you will attract guys that think you’re pretty and care more about what you are hiding underneath your clothes. And girls can dress sexy, without dressing slutty.
These are some basic things that good guys look for in a girl. Now every guys has preferences on things he likes or doesn’t like. As you get to know a guy, these preferences will come out. But just remember to be honest, be who you are, and remember that we’re always changing. We are not a finished product. Never be afraid to change and grow.
Now I don’t claim this to be a cure-all for your single needs. I know that each person is different, and are in different situations. It is merely a guidebook to help build a foundation to get you started in the right direction in looking for Mr. Right. It is to give you a new way of thinking, a fresh outlook on dating. Too many times we set ourselves up for failure, because we don’t really know what we’re doing. We should never be afraid, or too prideful to ask for help. Life is too short to make all the mistakes ourselves. Never be afraid to get advice from someone who has been there, and gone down the same path you are. You are not facing anything that someone hasn’t already faced many times before you. But I do hope that you take this advice to heart, to physically write down what you’re looking for, and to not compromise on that list. I want you to have self-esteem and confidence, have self worth, and realize that you are a very special girl, and that you deserve a man that will be treat you like a princess, and be your Prince Charming. And he is out there. The question is, “Are you ready?”


TaKe it Slow
So what do you want in a guy? I’ve split it up into 6 categories on what you should look for in a guy. You should be able to write a list of Physical, Character, Beliefs, Future/Goals, and Likes/Dislikes qualities that you want in a guy. You might have some very specific qualities or characteristics, and then some might not be so specific. Download the What I want in a guy form or get a blank piece of paper and fill it out.
When I talk about physical qualities, I’m not necessarily talking about hair or eye color, although if you are looking for something particular, then you can have that. But do you want a guy in shape? Are you looking for a taller guy? Long or short hair? What kind of hygiene are you looking for? Do you want him to be hairy or smooth? Some of these might be secondary or you’re not as particular about them. But for some of them, you might be specific and want something in particular.
Perhaps the most important thing you should look for in a guy is his character. Do you want a guy that will lie to you, or go behind your back. Do you want a guy that belittles you, or treats you like crap. Do you want a guy that doesn’t trust you, or stalks you to makes sure you are where you say you are. Character is who a person really is at the core, and should be very important in what you’re looking for.
You want someone that you’re compatible with, and this is where personality comes in. If you like to have fun, and joke around, then obviously you want someone that is similar. If you’re a very positive and happy and outgoing person, you don’t want to be with someone who is always negative, and down. Do you want a guy that gets mad easily? These are important qualities that you should look at, and look for in a guy.
Something that most people don’t think about when looking for a guy is the other persons beliefs and convictions. This can be from what church or religion you’re a part of, or what you believe in when you die, or how you feel about a particular subject. If you’re really religious and into God, then you should look for a guy that is as well. Because eventually, things are going to cross, and there will be conflict. If you’re not really religious, do you want a guy that is? Also this includes any convictions or beliefs about different topics like maybe drinking, drugs, abortion, political views. Do you want a guy with a certain view on different topics or beliefs. If so, then this is important to find someone who has similar views or beliefs.
Another thing that most people don’t think about when looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend is what the other person’s future or goals are. If you’re really into wanting to have kids and a family, and you’re dating a guy that doesn’t want kids, eventually these paths will cross, and you will have conflict. If you want to buy a home, and the guy wants to travel the world for 5 years, then obviously someone is going to have to give up their dreams. Why would you have a boyfriend who has different goals or a different future then what you want or are looking for. You’re setting yourself up for disappointment as eventually you’re going to give up your dreams, or breakup with him.
The Final category is miscellaneous likes and dislikes. Maybe you want a guy that likes a certain thing, or don’t want a guy that dislikes a certain thing. This is where these qualities go. Now these can be things that you won’t budge on, or maybe things that you would prefer to have in a guy.
So what kind of characteristics does a good guy have. A good guy will be unselfish, be romantic, be willing to commit, and give you his whole heart and soul. But he will expect the same from you. A good guy will be willing to go above and beyond to do things for you and to take care of you. He will be sensitive to your needs, feelings and emotions. He won’t belittle you or treat you like garbage. He won’t raise his voice in anger at you. He is confident in who he is, but he’s not cocky. He is honest, and would never lie to you. He trusts you in what you say and do. He is someone that doesn’t care about the mistakes you’ve made in the past. He only cares about who you are now. He is supportive and wants your dreams to come true. He is stable and wants you to support you and be there for you when you need help. He is there for you if you want to talk, or share your feelings, or just need a shoulder to cry on. These are just some characteristics of a good guy.
You need to make sure you know what you want and set high expectations. You need to know what you’re looking for, and not settle. You can’t look at a guy and say, “I can fix him up, and he might work.” Because this isn’t true. Girls marry guys all the time expecting them to change, and the guys don’t. When you get married you need to be willing to say, “I will love this person AS IS
for the rest of my life, if NOTHING changes I will love them!” BECAUSE, when you get married,
change is NOT a guarantee…so don’t listen to promises of change if evidence is not shown beforehand. So make sure you are picky, set your expectations high, and don’t settle!!!